How are you friends!!!!
Research has proved that women talk more than men, though it wasn’t even necessary to do any research to figure that out. But, there’s more to it: we learn to speak faster than men, and of course complain more (much more!) than they do.
Here we have a victory over men that is not too pretty to talk about: throughout life, we speak 3 times more than men—do you understand now why men avoid discussions about relationships? They already enter a discussion in disadvantage, LOL.
In light of this, I would like to promote a few minutes to think about what has permeated our relationships. Are we paying attention to the thousands of words we speak every day?
No one can be pleasant if they speak too much or complain about everything. There are women that are never happy with anything; they complain about the winter, the summer, the dry climate, the humidity, the demanding boss, the nice boss, the shopping mall being crowded or empty, the noise, the silence… in other words, they complain to no end.
Let’s see some examples of complaints:
- About her husband:
If he is calm, affectionate, romantic, and likes to take care of the children, she says he is too peaceful and stays at home too much. She gets tired and says, “I need some adrenalin… maybe a good fight will help!”
Now, if he’s the unattached type, who comes home a little later, she complains that he doesn’t even care about her or the children; he only thinks about himself…
- About the city where she lives:
If it’s big, she complains that the traffic is unbearable and that no one trusts anyone; if it’s small, she says, “It’s too boring here. It’s not charming; everyone minding other people’s businesses, including mine; they have nothing better to do…”
- About her home:
If it’s big, she complains that she spends too much time and money taking care of it—too many bathrooms, the stairs… But if it’s small, she says, “This is horrible! We have no privacy; I can’t receive any guests in this cubicle!
- About the dishes:
If the kitchen is well-equipped, she complains that she has too many things to wash, “It’s too many pots!” But if she has few dishes, she complains that she can barely cook, and says, “I barely have any pots…”
- About her hair:
If it’s straight, she complains, “I wish my hair was curly…” And the one with the curly hair spends a small fortune because she wishes her hair was straight.
- About her body:
The woman who has a large frame says, “I can’t find the clothes I want, I’m fat, I draw too much attention…” The skinny one takes every single kind of vitamin and says, “I would give everything to have big curves…”
The fair-skinned girl complains and shrivels up in the sun wanting to be tan, and the tan-skinned girl sighs thinking how great it would be if she were like Snow White.
- About her mother-in-law:
If her mother-in-law is caring, gives her attention, and wants to help, she complains because she finds her to be nosey, she doesn’t want her help; but if her mother-in-law is more distant, she complains that she doesn’t even know she exists…
Some complaints are legitimate; this is why you should always look for the motive behind what you say. And when you realise it’s a defect, look for a change, which not always is quick and easy.
And if you’re tired of complaining, what about examining yourself? Perhaps people can’t take anymore of you as well!
We can’t make the mistake of never being content. It’s common for people to think that by complaining they’ll get everything they want, but it’s not really like that.
We inherited this dissatisfaction from Eve. She was not content with the most perfect of all gardens and its trees—except for one. She had to try what she shouldn’t have, and managed to lose every good thing she had received from God.
Perhaps you are in paradise and do not even value that. Will you have to lose it to understand its value?
A big kiss and until next week
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